‘Depression rooms’ and ‘doom piles’

A camera pans around Abegael Milot’s bedroom. The floor is mostly invisible, hidden by piles of clothes. Four large plastic baskets are stacked on top of one another, some filled with laundry, others with electronics. There are eight abandoned cups of coffee on the desk and bedside table. On the floor lie two half-empty water bottles, a novelty bottle of tequila with a glass cactus inside, and a pet food dispenser.اضافة اعلان

“Today we’re going to be cleaning my depression room,” the 24-year-old YouTube star, who posts videos as Abbe Lucia, tells the camera. “I fear that the only way that I will make myself clean this room is if I film it.”

The term “depression room” is relatively new, popularized by videos on TikTok and YouTube that have accrued hundreds of millions of views. But experts have long recognized the link between messiness and mental health. The clutter that can accumulate when people are experiencing a mental health crisis is neither a form of hoarding nor the result of laziness. The culprit is extreme fatigue, said N. Brad Schmidt, a distinguished research professor of psychology at Florida State University.

People are “oftentimes just so mentally and physically exhausted that they do not feel like they have the energy to take care of themselves or their surroundings,” Schmidt said, adding, “They just don’t have the capacity to engage with housecleaning and upkeep that they probably once did.”

A messy home can also contribute to feelings of overwhelm, stress, and shame. And while decluttering will not cure depression, it can give you a mood boost. If it feels impossible to keep your surroundings tidy, here are a few tips on how to clean strategically to optimize energy and space.

Focus on function, not aestheticsFor KC Davis, a licensed professional counselor and author of the book “How to Keep House While Drowning,” her clutter problem ballooned when her second child was born in early 2020. “I’ve always been a messy person,” she said, “but it’s always been functional.” Suddenly faced with a new baby, postpartum depression, and a pandemic, Davis realized that, without any systems in place, she was in over her head.



While she worked to declutter her home, Davis started posting videos of her progress on TikTok, where she now has 1.5 million followers. Turned off by much of the self-help and cleaning content that has what she called “boot camp messaging,” she opted for a gentler, more pragmatic approach. Her systems are realistic about her capabilities and focus on having a livable space, not a spotless one.

One of her most popular strategies is “five things tidying,” the idea that there are only five things in any room: trash, dishes, laundry, things with a place and things without a place. Focusing on one category at a time keeps her from getting overwhelmed when it seems as if there are 100 different items that need to be put away.

Davis is also a big advocate for what she calls “closing duties,” inspired by her time working as a server. She often does not have the energy to clean her whole kitchen every evening, so she started doing just a few small tasks, “as a kindness to future me to set myself up for success in the morning.”

For people who are really struggling, Davis emphasized that things can be unsightly but should not be unsanitary. If you do not have the energy to wash all your dishes, clean just one or two for your next meal or use paper plates. If laundry involves too many steps, don’t worry about folding; wrinkles never hurt anybody.

Make home work better for youPeople who are neurodivergent, with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), autism or other executive functioning issues, also often struggle with excess clutter. Like “depression rooms,” the term “doom piles” has become popular on social media to describe the random stuff that builds up and you do not know what to do with. Nearly everyone has a junk drawer or two in their home, but these piles of clutter tend to be more ubiquitous for people who struggle with executive functioning.

Lenore Brooks is an interior designer who specializes in working with people who are neurodivergent. When her sister, who has ADHD, lived with her for a brief time, Brooks discovered that there were lots of resources to help children with ADHD or autism stay organized but virtually none targeted at adults.

Much of Brooks’ work revolves around helping her clients deal with seemingly endless clutter; they feel as if they’re constantly cleaning, but the clutter is always there. People with ADHD especially struggle with this because, she said, “it’s almost like decision fatigue all the time. ‘I can’t decide what to do with it, so I’m just not going to do anything with it.’ ”

The first step, Brooks said, is to really pay attention to the items that you are frequently cleaning up. Then find better places for them to live. “What I talk to my clients about a lot is systems,” she said. “Figuring out why things are where they are, why clutter is building up where it is, and then changing the design or the organization around how people are actually using their home.”

Stop the problem before it startsOnce your space is cleanish and relatively decluttered, try to take a few minutes each day to keep it that way. Davis recommended setting a timer for five or 10 minutes and getting as much taken care of as you can during that time. “I tell myself, ‘I don’t have to finish this task, but I’m going to get up for eight minutes and do it,’ ” she said. “I’m usually surprised at how much I can get done.”

And remember, it is normal to have some clutter in your home. The TV remote, your glasses, mail you need to sort, an art project you’re working on: “They are the signs of life in your home,” Brooks said.


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